Anyone who gets involved with direct should read these 9 inights…
I want to share the main realisations I’ve had about approaching girls Direct:-
1) Most girls are perfectly fine about you approaching them Direct. See, when I was in the ‘indirect community’, I believed being too forward or upfront would ‘freak girls out’ etc. I can tell you from my experience approaching girls Direct, almost every girl I approached Direct was flattered and overjoyed. Mostly, the girls melted, blushed, giggled and said a sincere ‘thankyou’.
So bah-ha to the indirect guys. Girls DO love to be approached Direct, and they’re not ‘freaked out’. They want a real man and are happy to be approached Direct because it happens so little to them (or never) in this day and age.
2) Not being upfront about your intentions leads to confusion and negativity for both you and the girl. Boy did I learn this the hard way! Lesson learned: always present the real you from the beginning, and tell the girl what type of relationship you’re looking for (casual fling, open relationship, momongamous relationship, etc).
3) Alan Roger Currie is correct when he says ‘do not back down for saying anything bold or sexually provocative to a girl’. I know this to be true because of a girl I met during the summer. I was totally Mode One with her and had an instant date, yet on our day 2 she was harshly critisizing me for only wanting casual sex with her. I didn’t back down, and we ended up parting ways. Fast forward to a few weeks ago when I bumped into her again in her town….she was nice as pie to me and apologised for her behaviour on that day 2 and she was like ‘nice to see you’ and acting all star-struck and stuff. I didn’t persue her any further, because my interest in her had waned.
4) Being Direct with women leads to being Direct in all other areas of your life. Well, for me anyway. The whole Direct, no excuses attitude has rubbed off in the rest of my life, so I am more of a man for it.
5) Direct works in the daytime as well as at night in bars and clubs. The best opener I figured out (by trial and error) for bars and clubs is simply ‘Hi, you’re one of the best dressed girls in this whole club, I have to meet you’. (Or similar, and you have to sincerely mean it).
6) It’s almost as if girls are WAITING for a real man to come along and approach them Direct. But it happens so little or never to them. I’m convinced girls are hardwired to respond to a REAL MAN, who approaches her Direct. And when you do, she is so gobsmacked that she just melts and attraction is instant. By approaching Direct and being a real man, you trigger her natural attraction mechanism and she just cannot help but be attracted to you. This is what I believe to be true, and my experiences confirm it.
7) Arguing with indirect guys about why Direct is better is a waste of time. See, when I ‘converted’ to Direct, I got into a lot of arguments with members of this lair about the in effectiveness of indirect . But in the end I decided to stop posting about that and instead just focus on getting good at Direct so I can lead by example.
8 ) Trying to impress girls is futile. I’ve learned that it’s ok to simply be my real self around girls and I no longer feel I need to impress them or be something I’m not. This realisation really healed me and was a big burden off my shoulders.
9) Leading an interesting life makes you attractive and confident as well as gives you interesting things to talk about when you meet girls. You’re not ‘bragging’ to girls when you share your interesting life experiences, you are simply showing them that you are (authentically) an interesting guy who leads an interesting life – unlike the indirect guys who use fake DHVs.
These are the main things I’ve figured out about Direct, and I’ve been pleasantly surprised about how well it’s worked and how well girls have responded. However as I said earlier, I need to work on sealing the deal with the girls who respond well to my Direct approach (which is most of them).
All of your questions will be answered when you drop the strict adherence to a system. You don’t have to do everything by the book
in order to get chicks. At least, do things according to how you feel good. I use direct because I like the whole idea of it. Cool.
The I like you opener and all that other stuff is designed to break down excuses. When you tear down enough excuses and start to live
the way you want to, then you can do whatever the hell you want to do and get the results you want. Direct keeps you sharp and it
prevents you from going back to weak-like behaviors. That is it. As long as you don’t go back to acting like who is weak then you can do whatever the hell you want.
Honestly getting women is extremely easy. Since all they’re dying to have happen is that a nice guy go up to them and not be scared
of them and not try to impress them, then all you have to do is be there and be you.
Simple. The best way to have success is to allow your true self out. Believe me, this is the hardest thing to come to terms with. But once you do then you’ll have to peel girls off you.
What direct, or any other seduction system for that matter, teaches you is to not be an admirer of women but a man that communicates with them without fear or embarrasment.
From what I see written here it seems as if some members are dangling between being genuinely themselves and doing something to get a chick.
Some members question are filled with statements such as; I feel she doesn’t X or I feel she doesn’t Y. If you base your approach, to a
woman, on pure speculation then you’ll never know if what you have is good enough for her. Ever. So stop speculating and
talk to girls from a place where you genuinely feel good and let ‘er rip. Communicate from the position of power, see that little girl
inside of her, and allow her to bring that out see and feel her energy. make her react towards you, bring her into your frame.
So you Need Advice on how to be a challange?
Being direct is the definition of being a challenge. You may say that you’re familiar with in-direct right? Therefore you will not
know how much of a challenge being direct is because either you haven’t tried it or you’re still excusing yourself. The indirect
guys have the right idea regarding sparking a woman’s attraction and keeping it short term, but what they never tap into is the
repeatable and almost routine way in which women fall in love. I’m not talking about women considering you good enough to sleep with you, I’m talking about women falling head over heels, stupid in love with you. It’s a huge difference. TRUST ME!!!!
Why the hell do you always read about Last Minute Resistance and BS tests when reading about indirect and you don’t see it addressed by guys who are direct?
It’s because when you go indirect they are not sure if you’re the real deal or not. As a matter of fact, most of the top dogs in the indirect world have a hard time keeping a girl. They think that they can overcome a problem like that with more technology. Can’t do it. That’s the grey area where love and emotions rule. They don’t tap into that. We do. Otherwise we’d be spouting routines and stupid gimmicks. But we don’t.
Attraction and Rapport is what it’s all about. Bring her into your world & connect with her.
What can be more challenging to a woman than exposing your true self infront of her 100%? They have stock responses to dorks,
but when you come at them directly they don’t have a response to that. And why, may you ask? It’s because that’s the way that women are programmed to fall in love. They do it repeatedly and routinely.
Look at any chick flick and tell me that the lead actress favors a guy that is slick and playerish over a guy who is genuine. You’ll
go nuts trying to find that flick. So guess what? You have girls watching these movies since childhood and everyrthing else around
her is telling her about romance and love. They Shit test because they want a prince and not a frog. They are trying to keep the frog
out at all costs. Frog behaviors include insecurity, which is something that women don’t particularly hope to find in a mate.
When you’re direct you will get shit tests until you learn to become comfortable doing it. Women’s bull shit detectors are tuned
in to detect Bull Shit people after all, so at the beginning you’ll stumble and fall until you get it. Being open and genuine and being
comfortable doing it is the aim in all this. So there again is an example of what women respond to and are hard wired to respond to.
So if you continue to look at things through an indirect mentality then you’ll overlook the most important thing. Which is to be
genuine above all else.
To be 100% genuine may take you a few years but when you do achieve it, all of the stumbles and falls that you endured to get there
will be worthwhile. This my Dear friends is the destination. Will you go or will you go elsewhere?
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