Most of us go through life on auto pilot, rarely ever pausing to think, and the only time we ever get out of second gear is when we meet that special someone. That’s when we realize the power of love/lust/attraction. I am living proof. I was in love with this girl (the only real love of my life), and we never ‘did it’. We just ‘made out’, held hands, gazed into each others eyes, lovey dovey stuff basically. The experience was one of the most intense experiences of my life. I now realize why.
I understand the importance of having a muse now. It could be anyone, an actress, model, girl I saw on the train etc. The important thing is to keep that brain vibrating with energy, and there is none more positive or aggressive than sex energy!
Stay Hungry. I was thinking the exact same thing myself. Two simple words, with profound meaning.
What a shame that it took me so long to realize that the energy that one experiences through that particular emotion is so versatile (energy usually always is) that it can be channeled into anything and everything.
You’ve got it! Mostly the most creative times of a relationship are in the flirtation, courtship stage when all your thoughts are corralled to one aim: being with that girl, looking at her, touching her, sharing with her, and bedding her.
If circumstances limit your physicality, the desire to ‘be together’ gets creative and finds other avenues for deepening your experiences together. She seeps into your heart and soul, you feel yourself buzzing with passionate energy, she becomes ever more desirable in your eyes. Your bioelectric energy body is lit up like a Christmas tree.
If you can stay with it, and recognize it, this is a blissful place to be: fully alive, in an exquisite agony of wanting even more!
We habitually train ourselves to get rid of desires as quickly as possible. Of course, we don’t look at it like that. We think instead of getting what we want as quickly as possible. But ‘the wanting’ is where the pulse of life is felt most keenly. Feeling that desire, and living with it, prises open your consciousness so you feel more alive!
Yes, life is the muse. She’ll pass you on the street like the sophisticated, oh-so-beautiful glossy blonde who stepped out on the limosine and glided past me on the street one boiling sultry day in Charleston, South Carolina, accompanied by her equally gorgeous, Amazonian, African-American friend… Or on an almost-deserted beach in Knockke-Heist, Belgium, ‘the most beautiful girl in the world’, dark long hair and in a bikini skips to the shoreline with her puppy and smiles at me… and is forever burned into my consciousness and memory. Or the rather plain looking mother holding her baby going past me on a high street on the Isle of Wight, England, looking me direct in the eyes and smiling a billion-dollar sweet smile. Or the tousled, damp-from-the-rain haired girl standing in my garage in her green eyes flashing with mischief, love and longing… Each of these… just a moment in time, but a moment in eternity as far as the spirit is concerned.
Stay hungry and your eyes will pick up the muse’s signs, signals, smiles and winks.
I’m in UK at present, where today it’s cool, damp and breezy. Heading back to Spain next week for some sun and fun.
There are many definitions, for me, sexual transmutation is the act of transforming sexual energy into creativity, increased productivity, happiness, health, confidence and power.
What benefits come from practising sexual transmutation?
You may find yourself needing less sleep. You may experience more energy, or a willingness to get out of your house more often and interact with women.You may take up more creative endeavours, such as playing the guitar, writing poetry, painting, singing, dancing, or creativity towards business and personal objectives.
So what is sexual energy?
When I first started learning about this stuff, I did not understand the concept of “sexual energy”. One of the strongest desires for most people is to have sex.
It’s no surprise to say guys think about sex all the time.
If we are not thinking about sex, we are probably thinking about how to get more money, a better car, or more power so that we can attract and sleep with beautiful women.
How does sexual energy feel?
For me, the energy is often focused on the groin area, and has a pulsing sensation. I consider this the “raw” energy before transmutation. However, after an intense exercise of an hour or more, this feeling goes away and leads to a more refined and powerful feeling of confidence and alertness.
I do not expect everyone to experience this the same way I do. If you are interested in this process, I suggest you actively learn and experiment with this sexual energy on your own. It’s possible that your experience may vary greatly from what I’m writing.
Who will this work for?
Sexual transmutation works for all ages.
Yes, sexual transmutation. will work for women, although the technique is different. Women are more yin (to use the Chinese term). This means they are like water. When women orgasm, they do not generally lose sexual energy.
However, men (yang) are like fire. When we ejaculate, we lose energy and become more lethargic.
If you have a girlfriend or are married, this makes things more difficult. You can still have sex without ejaculating, which I’ll describe later. You can also practice this for just a few days at a time. I suggest you keep reading, and maybe you can also apply this methodology in your life.
Why should I not ejaculate?
When you do not ejaculate, you are building up a dam within yourself. This is an extremely powerful flowing river, possibly the strongest energy we contain as humans.
By not ejaculating for a period of time, you can refocus the flow of this dam to more creative means, such as exercising, art, business, and other fulfilling activities.
However, if you do not actively transmute this energy, the dam is too powerful and it will overtake you and draw you toward psychosis, depression, or other negative channels.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, then sometimes it is a good idea to just “let it go” and ejaculate. For me, I needed to get my body used to not ejaculating as often. This was a habit I had since childhood, and it took me a long time to break.
Would you rather a little 5-second “spurt” of pleasure, or a week of high intensity productivity?
Once you understand this simple point, it’s easy to go longer periods without the need to ejaculate.
Are sexual thoughts bad?
Personally, I do not see any problem with practicing Sexual Transmutation and also allowing your mind to freely engage in sexual thoughts.
Although there is some debate on this topic, my view is that it’s damaging (and potentially harmful) to suppress these natural, sexual thoughts.
You may find that your thoughts become colored with sexuality. Your speech may take on sexual connotations. This is normal. The sexual energy is simply finding new outlets of expression.
However, if these sexual thoughts are too powerful for you and leading you to masturbation and ejaculation, then you need to improve your will power.
When properly harnessed, sexual transmutation is like taking a drug that turbo charges your levels of motivation.
The Chemistry of Love
When sparks fly between two people, we’re quick to say they have “chemistry.” Not everyone realizes that such couples literally have do have chemistry–it’s what’s behind those sweaty palms, the jumpy stomach, thumping heart, and nervous jitters. Chemistry also contributes to that warm, comfortable feeling you get from being with a longtime partner.
In the mid-1960’s, psychologist Dorothy Tennov surveyed 400 people about what it’s like to be in love. Many of her respondents talked about fear, shaking, flushing, weakness, and stammering. Indeed, when human beings are attracted to one another, it sets off quite a chain reaction in the body and brain. But there’s a perfectly logical explanation to those intense feelings.
The most well-known love-related chemical is phenylethylamine — or “PEA” — a naturally occurring trace ammine in the brain. PEA is a natural amphetamine, like the drug, and can cause similar stimulation. This natural upper contributes to that kick-up-your-heels, on-top-of-the-world feeling that attraction can bring, and gives you the energy to stay up all night talking to a new love. Sometimes this energy translates into the triple-espresso jitters; other times it simply keeps you wide-eyed and alert long past the time when you’d usually be yawning. “I always get excited about somebody who can keep me up late at night,” says Elan Freydenson of New Jersey. “I really value my sleep.”
You can also get a non-romantic dose of PEA from high-intensity activities like skydiving, or by eating chocolate. According to Chocolate.org, chocolate contains small amounts of our love drug, PEA. That might be why some people use chocolate as “comfort food,” getting the same warm, relaxed feeling from chocolate as others do from Mom’s chicken soup.
One of the substances released by PEA is the neurochemical dopamine. A recent study done at Emory University shows that female voles (small rodents) choose their mates in response to dopamine being released in their brains. When injected with dopamine in a male vole’s presence, the female will pick him out of a crowd later. Our love food, chocolate, also elevates levels of dopamine in the brain.
In turn, Dopamine stimulates the production of oxytocin, sometimes known as “the cuddle chemical.” Oxytocin is best known for its role in mothering, stimulating contractions during labor and aiding with breast feeding. According to BirthPsychology.com scientists now think that both genders release this nurturing hormone when touching and cuddling, with the oxytocin level peaking during orgasm.
Another euphoria-inducing chemical in your brain, norepinephrine, stimulates the production of adrenaline and makes your blood pressure soar when near the person you’re attracted to. That’s why you might experience a pounding heart or sweaty palms when you see someone you’ve got the hots for.
What The Brain Tells the Body
How do our emotions get translated into physical sensations? A U.S. News and World Report article explains the importance of the vagus, a nerve that threads through your whole body. It transports signals from your brain to your organs, “setting the heart pounding, making the stomach do flip-flops, and of course, lighting the loins on fire.” Everyone knows that jumpy, sort of sick feeling in your stomach. Some people call it a “hollow” feeling, while Elan Freydenson describes it this way: “That weird feeling falls somewhere between my belly button and my heart. It feels like tension building, yet it feels great and I want to have that feeling more often.”
Tennov’s group also reported “intrusive thinking,” where it seems like your brain is fixated on the object of your affection. When your heart rules your head, there’s actually one part of your brain running the other: the cortex is the area of your brain that controls logical thinking, while emotions are processed by the limbic system. When too many happy chemicals like PEA and dopamine flood your brain, they head straight for the limbic system.
When The Honeymoon’s Over
Some scientists believe that after a certain period, from 18 months to 4 years, one’s body gets used to these love stimulants. After building up a tolerance to uppers like PEA, passionate romances can cool into what Helen Fisher, author of “Anatomy of Love” calls “attachment.” In this phase of the relationship, your brain produces endorphins, brain opiates more like morphine than speed. “Unlike PEA,” says Fisher, “they calm the mind, kill pain, and reduce anxiety.” So what some people call “separation anxiety” might actually be a form of drug withdrawal.
The idea that the “honeymoon period” of a relationship is fueled by different brain chemistry than what is present during the mellower years that come later might explain why some people can’t seem to hold long-term relationships: they prefer the revving-up affects of brain amphetamines to the pain-killing effects of endorphins.
“Divorce rates peak around the fourth year of marriage,” says Charles Panati in his book “Sexy Origins and Intimate Things.” “The initial ‘highs’ of love have lost their chemical underpinnings Marilyn Monroe’s classic film “The Seven Year Itch” should be retitled ‘The Four Year Itch.”
Lynn Harris, co-creator of BreakupGirl.com wonders if it’s the other way around. “Relationships take work. They just do. And people get lazy after a while,” she says. “So do they get lazy because they’re getting immune to the chemicals, or do they get lazy because they just do…which triggers a decline in the chemicals?”
In the end, even hard-core scientists agree that chemistry isn’t everything. Culture, circumstances, personality, and scores of other variables help decide who turns your head and who leaves you cold. So don’t try to reproduce that lovin’ feeling in a basement chemistry lab–but do try your best to enjoy the natural highs that life gives you.
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- Sexual Transmutation experiences
- More on Sexual transmutation
- SEXUAL TRANSMUTATION
- Sexual transmutation an introduction
- So what is Sexual transmutation?
- Learn to say ‘no’
- The Direct Mind Set & 9 reasons why you should be this way!
- You do not have to follow a system or method
- Open your energies and give her space.