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Learn to say ‘no’

By Adrian Millàs Luque from BCNLair

 


 

There is something I want to talk about today. It is a pain in the ass of every man at some point in their lives, and actually, when I mention that pain, the face (or faces) of some girl(s) are going to come through your mind. This pain is the kind of girl that you are really not interested in, but just because she shows some special interest in you, you feel kind of attracted to give her your time and attention. Seriously, what are we men thinking about when we waste our time with these kind of women?
I had a long experience in the past with this, and so I want to expose the stone that made me fall again and again along the way: not being brave enough to accept that I had to keep looking around for that special woman I liked, and be lonely in the making, and take advantage of the time that I have for myself. Luckily enough, I met a girl who was the last drop that filled up my glass full of shit. Really, this girl would be an average beautiful girl, and she was boring to death, which took away all the attraction she could ever have. My mind-set on that girl was the same as with other girls like her in the past: I can practice with her to become a better man. Hang around with her, have some kind of fun, and make love.
One day after some weeks after meeting her, I said to myself: hey, what do you want from this girl? The answer was a silence in my mind, followed by a thought. I was simply trying to avoid seeing the truth. I only had one girl that I really liked in my life – because she is so sweet and sexy, and we have crazy times doing all sorts of things together – and as I felt that I needed more great women like her around me, I tried to keep in touch unconditionally with the other women I was kind of flirting with.
Sometimes it is easy to have a daily life full of beautiful acquaintances, but sometimes is simply not that easy, mostly because the places that you frequent do not have the vibe that attract those women you desire. You must use this time in which a woman you could really like is not in your life to do other useful things. Do not get obsessed about women, you must not haunt women. Love is attraction, and attraction is like a magnet, both part of the magnet come together, not one of them chasing the other.
In the event that you give your time to a woman who does not really attract you (and here is the big deal of this essay buddies), you do not let attraction appear, and so forth you are going to suck at doing anything with her. If you are not attracted, you are not going to use your sharpest humor. If you do not really desire that woman, then move on, and keep looking around you. If you look to her eyes and yours stay steady in hers for a considerable amount of time, if you don’t find her cheeks cute when she smiles, if you don’t melt with her laugh and sweet way of being, then simply she is not your kind of woman, and therefore, you must forget flirting with her and losing your time and her time.
It is kind of reciprocal, the fact that you are not really attracted to her and that she is kind of making you waste your time. Buddies its time for you to notice that women see through you (like your moms do, so to speak), think about it: would you be interested to have a romance or even a one-night stand with a really hot and sweet girl who does not really like you? If you have some kind of moral and self-esteem, then the answer is ‘no’.
I only flirt with women that show passion for life and happiness. I only kiss women that I like. I only make love to those that show me that we share something especial. And all of that I do, because it must not be in another way. Attraction is built on honesty about your feelings and wishes. You must start being honest with what you really want right now. Dream big about the kind of women that you want around you. Visualize these harmonious and loving tender feminine figures as you close your eyes, feel them in your head, feel your heart beat rhythm when you approach one of them, breathe deeply, and say the very first thing that comes out of your lips. Let the power of attraction be unleashed.

 

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February 25, 2011 Posted by | Attraction, Flirting | , , , | 4 Comments

How to get more IOI´s By Rion Williams.

From A news letter by Rion Williams.

Hey Rion,

Thanks for the mailings..I must admit I wasn’t sure about you at first, but after reading what you teach, you take this stuff seriously! In your last newsletter the following really stood out:

If you want women attracted to you, you have to have a natural relationship instead of a social one (unless you are higher in value than her socially AND have natural value).

Are you saying that a higher ranked man in terms of social value should have a social relationhip? What exactly is a ‘social’ relationship?

The reason I ask women give off Indications of interest right away when around me, even what some in the industry call ’10’s’. I’ve always been told girls are very attracted to me, but I’m never sure how to handle it.

I’d be interested to get a perspective from some- one I actually rate in this industry..

Regards, Colin UK

MY REPLY **************

Well, you brought up a couple of points there..About the biggest point that I’m trying to teach and get
across now to guys is to develop relationships with alpha nature.

It is your practical fast track to power, peace and attraction.That’s how you’re able to reach through towomen on the nonverbal levels and trigger a response within her, get interest and to take things from there – having alpha nature/energy yourself that is equal to her in a polar balance.

-Otherwise you’ll continually approach or date and not be able to figure out why you can’t get attraction, interest or results. It comes down to natural value that you offer and the natural response she is going through in relation to you.If you have social relationships and you’re playing the game thinking you have to have an even SHINIER car and a bigger pad in order to get women, that’s not it.S.e.x. sells and advertisers are exploiting it; it works because they’ve built up this ‘forced reality’ where
people can be like the top models for a price.It’s really getting out of hand now.

You’re going to ‘attract’ more of the game and be spending even more. Women are spending all kinds of money to look like social alpha models on fashion, makeup, ‘beauty’, etc. because it’s what was made popular and acceptable in their unique social culture.It gives them power (the wrong kind) and status..they’re
leveraging or ‘borrowing’ character that says nothing about who they really are in terms of personality; you’re
objectifying them instead of seeing the real her.

If your model of sexuality is a social alpha with the pussy on the pedestal and you’re chasing after all these
bunny clones you’re likely playing ‘the game’.{You want the steak more when it’s sizzling in front of
you. You’d consider buying the ginsu knives when you see the demonstration because of relational influence
whereas you wouldn’t likely think of it otherwise.}

You would have behavioral relationships with social alpha desire and attainment. ‘Social’ means economic relation-ships that are rooted in fantasy, not reality and that’s why it’s so inconsistent with women – they too are behaving unnaturally because it’s all a fantasy/game with any success on men’s part with ‘some’ crossover to nature and flirting.

That’s why PUA’s will talk about social value and displaying value to ‘equalize’ their power to her behavioral reality of social alpha ‘prize’ status.

I’ve said before, just ‘be’ the social alpha if you can.It will make things a whole lot easier.

‘Be’ the d.j., bouncer, owner, promoter or know people who are. It makes a difference in those fake and contrived environments because unfortunately those corrupted dynamics DO have an influence on female behavior and they’re judging what they see right in front of them.

If you’re at the top of the game you know how the environment is created and controlled. Bring in the unattainable dancers on the actual ‘pedestal’ and focus the attention
on the loud dance floor, blah blah..

Believing it’s reality itself is dangerous and will keep you distant from real world connections.

I value interdependence and connection.

Of course in any case you still have to have the natural value or a seduction likely isn’t ever going to happen.

The stronger your natural character, the easier everything will become. If you’re focusing on social tactics and still don’t have natural game, you’re wasting a LOT of time to see little payoff. I went through that cycle for several years.

You’re taught to believe it’s real and it looks real thus the cycle continues. It’s time to have a different
understanding of reality and alpha nature which cuts through all of a woman’s social conditioning and personal
development that reaches her on that physiological level within a few seconds of approaching her.

On your other point;

Over a decade ago, I also used to be told that women were attracted to me and yet I never believed it..you know why?

Because those American women rarely ever showed their interest or signs. Part of it was a character/confidence issue but it actually had more to do with the women than
me.

In college even when some women it looked like were ‘maybe’ giving signs (was she? wasn’t she?) at that
point I didn’t know WHAT to do in most cases so I often just didn’t approach.

Their signs were never clear or strong enough. Fortunately those years of questioning and ineffectiveness have been over but even now with many women at any level of character or status, they just WON’T give you ANY sign even when they ARE interested.

It would literally take a Brad Pitt to light up some of our women today. Go to any Starbucks and see Prada’s (Pd un prada en un tia super buena) unable to show interest in the ‘cute guy’ (or any of them) next to them yet they wonder why they can’t meet (good/any) men.

THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Don’t take the blame on yourself if you really ARE the proven high quality/value guy.

I know it can be frustrating. Society and relational influences in their environment
have conditioned them to have social value away from the power of nature.

Even if they’re closed off and generally unapproachable, I’ve found that in many cases I will just approach ANYWAYS and do my usual indifferently interested casual connection.

Now I get IOI’s about everywhere I go. It helps to see different environmental dynamics to get a clearer picture of reality itself as closer to nature because the behavior of women is the greatest wildcard and that’s why everything is so confusing for men.

Now..when they ARE showing IOI’s (sonarr) that is her sign that it’s YOUR turn to make a move. That choice is up to you but she’s already given the go ahead. Often it is subtle but with more experience you’ll know it clear as day, the closer you get to nature and the natural dynamic in it’s purest form.

The reality of living the lifestyle of attracting women and getting their interest when you approach (and all of
the other benefits) are worth it all.Isn’t time to have everything you should be getting instead
of suffering through less than you deserve?

December 29, 2010 Posted by | Attraction, Inner Game | Leave a comment

Just do it, but don’t force it.

I find that most people think way too much, or even fixate a lot upon the variouse stages of getting girls, such as “opening” “attracting” “rapporing” stages of the process, what in fact happens in when you tend to focus upon something and not just go ahead and do it anyway you tend to self defeat yourself.

Example: Remeber when you focused too much upon opening when you were a newbie? or even before you found the seduccion community? what happened? you focused too much upon opening and in fact you could nt open..self destruction by the sub-conciouse mind, and dont doubt for one minute that your subconciouse mind wont sabotage your desires for success, as your desires (to change to move from the confort zone) really come from the conciouse mind, the subconcoiuse mind is and tends to be happier with the “status quo”  so forcing something really doesnt get results..now what happened when you focused or even worried too much about the attraction phase of the process? did you get attraction? probably not and probably because you focused too much upon that even tryed too hard to get her to even just like you, trying to get her attracted and she sensed that you were having to put in such an effort and probably (in my opinion) sensed some kind of inner weakness, a lack of self confidence or esteeme after all just trying or even being focused on making or getting someone to like you is comming from a position of weakness..

So the big question arises is effort related to success? If so how much?

Ok, I will answer this question..yes effort is related to success, directly so! but wait a minute Mr Donatello you just said that putting in effort gets little or no results when comming to attraction-rapport-opening-closing. So let me put it this way, the LESS you try the more you get, its directly IMPROPORTIONAL, the more you try the less results you get, so the less you try the more you will get.

its really that easy….pure and simple!

having Posted that old Bending post realting to attraction…I found that still most did not fully understand what I was trying to communicate, what I mean really was in quite simple and real terms do very little, in fact dont even try to do something
just quite simply project caracteristics that women find very attractive in men, caracteristics that you have in built within you and then just quite simply focus on the interaction with the girls in question, and not get too tecnical or worry about such things as Kino or even bodylanguage, as naturally with clearness of mind and confidence that will naturally come as the subconciouse mind will know what to do. Having had the discusson with Ranko (Attractanddate.com) about does the subconciouse mind know everything..I say so, He however disagreed, what we both agreed upon was that the sunconciouse mind does know enough to get laid! so go Take advantage of that fact!..

If anyone is still in doubt about putting less effort into the attraction fase, focus on the Mystery method, or styles anihilation method, both of which spend very little time in the attraction phase, Badboy..is nt he the one that says its Rapport that gets girls and not the attraction. The method of dating confidence by Attract&Date is that you communicate and sub-communicate caracteristics that women are pre programmed to find attractive, in short if you dont get the girl, its NOT because of XYZ reason or there is something wrong with her, (that in short is an excuse) its because there is something wrong with you, maybe your charm simply was not strong enough.

Putting it easily open strongly, (comming from the position of power) with a compliment, transition to getting her to talk about herself..in short tell her what she wants to hear! and after that just focus upon the interaction, no rutines, no methods no nothing! just make her feel good about herself, simply just being herself, be ballsy tell her why you like her, what you find attractive about her..cos I´ll bet no one has ever opened or approached her like that ever! It will boost her self esteem and perhaps she will feel a sigh of relief “finally a real man!” ; of these feeling she will be anchoring them (associating) to you.

as for rapport…well guess what..your natural at that also..is nt that how you got or made friends in the first place, Im pretty sure you did not use methods or rutines to get friends…every single friend that you have had or ever had, was down to rapport and your rapport skills, which is natural as we human beings are social animals..

December 28, 2010 Posted by | Attraction, Inner Game | Leave a comment

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