Note: I’m about to talk about some stuff that’s pretty crazy, and as far as I can tell, hasn’t been seriously addressed before.
That said, this isn’t your answer. If you’re not living a life you enjoy, with a cool social life and as much sex as you’d like – this isn’t the answer. Focus on being positive, confident, and happy. Get some results, then maybe give this a read.
Alright, that said, I’ve made some observations over the past couple years. I’ve noticed that people walk in a certain way that’s extremely indicative of their value.
Basically, in short: People move out of the way of people they perceive as higher value than themself.
A quick list would include: Very beautiful women, people obviously very wealthy, taller people, very athletic people, big people in any capacity, people that look dangerous, and people that look like they command respect.
Now, most of those you can’t easily become. I mean, good luck becoming a “very beautiful woman”, guys. Likewise, becoming very wealthy isn’t something you decide is time to do this weekend.
But you CAN look like you command respect, and to a lesser extent, you can look dangerous if you want to.
Me, I first noticed these things when I’d go out peacocked. When I heavily decked myself out, EVERYONE would move out of the way for me. *EVERYONE*
Extremely beautiful women would get out of my way. So would tall guys, ripped guys, businessmen, whatever. Then the clothes would come off, and people didn’t move out of my way any more. In fact, I noticed that *I* was moving for people.
So, I decided to get to the bottom of it. What was I doing differently, and what were others doing differently when I was all dressed up?
Well, people were hesitant to make eye contact with me when I was dressed up. They slid out of the way as I passed through. It seemed like I held my head higher and my shoulders broader, and I strutted more.
Through a pattern of people moving for me, I’d become accustomed to it and EXPECT it.
So, I tried something crazy. I dressed very down for a day, and tried walking the same way I would when I was in some rhetro-crazy outfit. Results were interesting: Some people moved out of my way, some did not.
I kept playing with it, and I’m blushing a little as I write that I actually ran into some people. I was experimenting and playing around with getting people out of my way, and through the course of it, I started noticing the little patterns that got people to move.
First, the basics of bodylanguage: Chin up, eyes looking forward all the time. I don’t “look around” when I’m in an area… I let my peripheral vision take things in, so I don’t look like a starry-eyed tourist. No matter where I am, I’m not getting pegged as an easy mark by thieves and other miscrits.
I scan and evaluate everywhere I go. I’m looking for beautiful women, people that seem interesting, and trouble. The whole time, I’m usually wearing a slight knowing smile. I make eye contact with almost everyone, including guys a foot+ taller than me that were representing some gang.
I wouldn’t be standoffish. Just neutral as I did this.
Arms by my side, slow walk. Like a gunslinger… women have actually been able to recognize me from my walk, from behind, with me in generic clothes… One girl recognized me from behind six months after she’d last seen me, and my hair was a different color and much shorter, and I was wearing winter clothes that she’d never seen me in before.
Anyway, imagine Clint Eastwood. Slow, deliberate, dangerous movements. That’s the basic idea behind my walk, though I’ve unexagerrated it a bit recently.
Arms pushed out a little bit, the way a ripped guy would. I learned that part from when I used to be cut myself, and even though I’m not in incredible shape any more, I remember what it used to be like. Watch a bodybuilder’s arms sometime for the general idea.
Okay, so I’ve got good bodylanguage, and I walk slowly and deliberately. I scan crowds and make incidental eye contact with a lot of people. I never look down sunkenly, and rarely look around in a daze.
Now, getting people to move for you: Never move tentatively. Always pick a point and walk directly to it. If you’re not sure exactly the best way to get where you’re going, completely stop and think out your course, then start moving again.
Take up space. The Croatian crew has definitely repped this before, and it’s very true. I don’t go out of my way to artificially take up space, but I definitely don’t try to minimize myself.
The next part’s going to seem a little standoffish, so calibrate. Make sure you’re getting some basic respect before you try this.
One thing I noticed that high-value people will do when they expect someone to move for them- and something I caught myself doing- was half-stepping towards a person that you expect to move. Like, if two people are passing each other:
So one of them’s going to need to move a tiny bit. A low-value person will try to move completely out of the way. A mid-value person will move halfway out of the way. A high-value person will actually make a step TOWARDS the other person, very subtly, and watch the person cede even MORE space to them, and move MORE than they otherwise would have.
The full stop: If you and a person are walking head on into each other, say, you’ve just come through a doorway and they’re about to go through it.
One thing someone with high value will do is just COMPLETELY STOP. Then the other person will have to slink around them. After they’ve moved enough out of the way, the person with high value will continue on his way.
Cut ’em in half: I’ve noticed that people of very high value will walk right through a group of people of lesser value. Like, if there’s a group of four average girls walking down the street, a guy that thinks very highly of himself will usually walk right through the group instead of going around.
Traffic direction: I’ve definitely seen this and done it. One thing a guy of high value will do is subtly “direct traffic” sometimes. He’ll hold his hands up to stop people. If he wants someone to go through a door before him because he’s being polite, he’ll make a sweeping “go ahead” gesture with his hand.
Slow it down: When in doubt, slow down MORE, not less. If you’re moving slowly, the other person is responsible for fixing the situation before you are. Most people aren’t confident, and want to resolve a potentially jarring situation quickly. If they almost run into someone, they speed WAY up. What you should do is slow WAY down, be unbothered by it all.
If you’re running into people, you’re doing it wrong. I definitely went through that phase when figuring this shit out, but if you project the image that you’re to be respected and that you shouldn’t be fucked with, people should be moving.
Now, for me, it’s all become subconscious. I’m not thinking about manipulating people’s walking patterns as I move around through the world. It’s all who I am: Most people move for me. If someone doesn’t, no big deal, I move gracefully and keep my stride.
The biggest application for PUA’s with this is to not move for beautiful women. The woman’s not even going to think consciously about it, but you’re going to be letting her know on a subconscious level that you’re of very high value.
On the off chance you do crash into someone while learning, just smile and apologize. If they linger, it’s okay to pat them on the back or shoulder, just do it respectfully. If the person really starts to get heated, and they’re thinking they’re of the gangster variety, something like, “Hey, my bad, man. No disrespect intended” in a solid, unwavering voice has always been enough to resolve the situation for me. It gives them an out to keep their manliness, but doesn’t show weakness that they can attack.
There’s little applications to this everywhere. I’ve definitely noticed something similar on the subway in Boston. See, I love people and all, but I don’t like people in my space unless they’re someone I’ve got love for. So, I used to move a little bit over when a random person would sit too close to me on the train.
Wrong move. The person would invariably move into the space I just vacated, and now they’d still be intruding into my space: And I’d have less space to be sitting in.
Now, as soon as I sit down on a train, I take up all my space, and don’t move for *anyone* (exceptions being the elderly, handicapped people, and pregnant women: I’m ‘alpha’ and whatever, but I’m not a total dick). Anyway, this cavalier attitude of owning the train is enough to have people respect my personal space and not try to intrude on it.
You can definitely have fun playing with this stuff, or even just using it to observe people and peg their value and self-esteem.
Also, a last, cool note: Ever seen a romantic story where two people start both trying to move for each other repeatedly, and one of them makes a joke about how they’re dancing, then they wind up dating?
It actually happens. Reason being, both people think the other one is of higher value, so they both think they’re getting a catch. This is mostly a subconscious thing, but that combined with the moment of mandatory interaction from the “dancing”… it actually happens.
Make sure you get the basics going on before you even think about this. This is a little thing you can play with after you’ve got a solid foundation, and is by no means the holy grail. But if you’ve got some good results going on, you can definitely work on your walking patterns. If you’re going to be seeing me in person sometime coming up, feel free to ask for a little demo. It’s some crazy stuff to see.
Lets talk little bit of body language, and how it is connected to attitude and confidence. We all know, that people communicate with each other on multiple levels. Words (what we say), is just 7% of the whole conversation, rest is bodylanguage. When I say body language, I mean: pitch of voice, tonality, speed, how you walk, the way you carry yourself through the world, eye contact, how fast you move (hands… etc), shoulders, chest… You may ask why body language is so important. First, because its the way you communicate with other people, including women.
This sub communication is even more important that ever before, because society created a link between our actions, and how people feel. For example when you are in room, and you feel really nervous, everyone in the room will pick up that you are nervous, by your actions, tonality, speed of your movements… Such things are really obvious, even for kids… you can see when somebody is sad, happy, excited, honest, angry.
Now, we can all find lots of info about other people by their body language, and find info about females too, the outgoing girlwoman, she can tell you a zillion things about you, just by your image… the way you move etc. Let me quote my girlfriend here: “I can see if a guy is good in bed, just by the way he walks.” That is so true. They can tell everything about you just by the way you look. It comes from experience, of all those years of guys hitting on them.
If you go out dressed like shit, probably you are shit… also, if you go out dressed as a money guy, you probably are a Money guy. As for the woman, this screening by looks and body language is a self-defense mechanism. She really doesn’t want to hook up with some Low-self-esteem loser, or some boring guy who doesn’t know how to give her some fun in her boring life. So they screen you, and try to find out as many things about you as possible in a short period of time.
Imagine, if you are a HOT girl, would you give 30 minutes of your time to some boring geek?? No, you would give him 30 seconds and then the “fuck off” line.
This is because she already knows that he is a boring, lame-ass guy. But what if some super-long term relationship confident guy who’s well dressed comes into a room, walks slowly towards a hottie with a smile on his face, and starts a conversation with a girl… would she reject him??
What if that same boring geek, comes into room, dressed like money, with full confidence, and alpha body language… would it make any difference to success?? No…
Now let me ask you who the guys who are really confident in our society are, with an attitude larger then life?? Who are they?? Rockstars, company directors, successful managers, doctors, rich kids…. etc.
Now, take a look how they walk, how they sit, how they speak… you’ll notice something really interesting. They are totally calm, like they control TIME, they are not in hurry, the way they move, how they speak, they radiate with that super-confidence.
Lets take a look what are most common mistakes are when somebody tries to PU a girl:
• Talking too fast (to say as much things in shortest period of time) • Talking too much (to hide your inner state (uncomfortable)) • Not knowing what to say next • Drinking (too become comfortable) • Asking too many questions (you want to create rapport too soon, as she doesn’t wants you at all) she knows its cause just the way she looks • Body language wrong (hands connected, foots too close, shoulders down, leaning in) • Buying her drinks (trying to impress her, or even worst, get her drunk) • Not being comfortable talking with strangers
Now, all this, does it radiate with any confidence??? Hell no!! Take a look, every action here radiates with INSECURITY!!
Ok, let’s correct that body language together, here is list of things that you must FIX…
• Keep hands out of pockets. • Stand with feet wider apart. (Not This II but more like this I I) • Don’t swing around with your hands when you walk. • Never look at the floor (down) when you walk (look above horizon) • Expose your chest • Shoulders up (in relaxed way) • When you walk, walk slowly, bigger steps, but slow. • Use lot of space no matter where you are, because it radiates with confidence… • Don’t dress in too many dark colors (just when you want to contrast with something). • Don’t be afraid to go into people’s personal space. Personal space is society bullshit. It doesn’t exist!! If you if give a shit, its going to exist — otherwise it won’t! • Always lean out… trust me, when you lean out, people around you • will start to lean in to hear you. • Touch people when you talk with them (non-sexual) because you must create conversation on all levels! Not just verbal. (Later she is going to be used to your touch, and that is perfect for the pre-sex stage!) • All your body language must be in same speed. That means you can’t walk slowly, move with confidence, and then talk fast, like Bart • Simpson!! It must be on same speed, otherwise they will tell you that you are ‘trying to be cool’ (cause you are sending different messages on different levels… so you are not CONGURANT (he is lying))
One more really important thing, my friend Shark would tell you “Pick-Up doesn’t start when you approach her, it starts when you WAKE UP in morning!” and that’s so true!
Did you know that most of the communication
that goes on between two people is non-verbal?
It’s true! Regardless of the fact that most of us don’t even know it, and even more of us can’t pick up on it… we are constantly using our bodies to send signals to each other. These signals show exactly what we are TRULY feeling at the time, and is our body’s way of subconsciously saying the things that we are thinking but would never say out loud. Have you ever wanted to read another person’s mind? Well, reading body language is the only skill known to man that can actually tell you exactly how others are feeling… and in your case, how a particular woman feels about you.
Now that you understand how body language works, the next step is to learn how to read these signals so you can “translate” them, which brings us to the fine art of reading body language…
The art of body language is a vast subject worthy of it’s own website, so I will only be able to scratch the surface in this guide, if you are looking for an in-depth view on body language please refer to the resources at the bottom of this page. However, it is only necessary for a player to have a basic understanding of body language in order to get the results that you are looking for!
Body language consists of two basic types of gestures: open gestures and closed gestures. Open gestures are displayed when the woman is interested in or attracted to the person presented to her, while closed gestures are displayed when she is not.
Becoming a master of body language is the ability to read these signs and use them to your advantage. You must understand that many things can effect a persons body language. For example, if a woman is having a bad day, she may display closed gestures while she is actually attracted to you. Also keep in mind that many shy people automatically put up a barrier between you and them by displaying closed gestures, and our ability to break down these barriers by changing a woman’s closed gestures into open gestures is what separates us players from the rest.
Now you know what body language is, and that everyone has the ability to affect and change someone else’s body language from negative to positive by simply warming up to them (macking). It’s time to learn what these gestures are so you can identify and use them successfully during your encounters with women…
You give me Butterflies
Once you make eye contact with a woman, watch her for a few seconds after she looks away. If she does something that implies that she has become nervous due to you making eye contact, this means that she is interested in or attracted to you. For example, she will: play with her hair, adjust her clothing or jewelry or fiddle with something in her hands.
“Read” her palms
She will expose her wrists and palms of her hands only to people she is interested in. This is a subconscious display of being submissive to you, in which her body is saying “If you want me, you can have me”.
Locked on target
Her shoulder orientation is one of the most obvious signs of attraction, so her upper body will most likely be facing you if she is interested. In essence, she points her shoulders at what she wants.
Leaning foward is also an easy sign to pick up. If her shoulders point at you and she is leaning towards you, then you can put your mind at ease, it’s yours for the taking.
Are you comming in or what?
When her legs or feet are widened this means she is very comfortable with her surroundings and with you. Be careful when observing this, if there are other men in the area then it may not be you that is making her comfortable!
Eyes are not just for decoration.
Her pupils will dialate (get bigger) while looking at a person that she likes, and in turn will get smaller while looking at a person she does not. Keep in mind that lighting can greatly affect this. For instance, if you are outside when the sun is present her pupils may appear to be very small no matter how much she likes you, and vice versa. The best method to use for testing this is when you can view the change in her pupils when looking at you and then at someone else.
This is a no-brainer. If she smiles at you when you make eye contact, get over there and talk to her.
When Did I become Funny
One of the best signs you can hope for is when she will laugh at just about every slick thing you try to say. You may begin to think that you might actually be pretty funny… but your wrong, she just likes you a lot and that’s even better!
As good as gold
If she touches you multiple times while she is talking, like tapping you on the forearm when trying to make a point, then remember to tell her what you like for breakfast so she knows what to cook in the morning.
You must do your duty.
She will make eye contact with you and hold it for a longer than usual period of time, almost uncomfortably long. Before looking away, remember to smile at her. This will let her know that you are interested and are a nice guy. Following this, you may also notice her glance at you occasionally. After the second or third look it should become obvious to you that she wants you to talk to her, so it is your duty as a player to give her what she wants 🙂
If you notice a woman flip her hair and immediately afterward glace your way, she is showing her interest in you and trying to get your attention focused on her by catching your eye.
Its about time to roll on out.
Whenever a woman that you are gaming rolls her eyes it means that she is embarrassed by your presence and is attempting to display to everyone else that she is not interested in you. If this happens to you turn around and walk away, you have little (if any) chance of getting with her.
X does not mark the spot.
Crossing her arms is a tell-tale sign that she is either agitated, nervous, uncomfortable or just does not like you. It’s time to change your strategy, and quick.
The Great Wall of Vagina
Crossing her legs is just as bad as crossing her arms, but can be worse because once her legs are crossed she will most likely cross her arms also. However, if her legs are crossed and pointing towards you (knee points toward you), this means that she is nervous but has interest in you. On the other hand, if her knee points away… you’re in trouble.
The “lean back” is the most dreaded sign in all female body language. If she is leaning away from you and it is very noticeable, my advice is to forget her and move on to your next prospect. Only a very experienced (and lucky) player can warm up to a woman after noticing this type of behavior, but if you think you’ve got the skills then give it a try, you’ve got nothing to lose.
Body language Trick.
Here is a fun trick to use when you want to find out if a woman is checking you out: Look at your watch, count to 3, then look at her. If she looks at her watch also, then she was checking you out. It is a natural human reaction to mimic the actions of someone that you are interested in. By looking at your watch, you will spark her curiosity and she will be wondering what you are waiting for, and with no other source to gather information from she will look at her own watch to try to at least determine the time of your expected event.
This is a Mens dating advice blog for all men seeking to improve their dating experiences. What also makes this different is that it is multi-media informative blog and unlike other blogs or sites not aimed at the art of seducing or cheating women but to self development, improving ones dating experiences.
Please bare in mind that this is only the beta version
Thanks in advance & happy reading.
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