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What is natural seduction?

Inner game makes attraction and sex a ‘thinking’, ego-based and ‘logical’ thing. Inner Game often creates even more trauma and anxiety because inner game can never be resolved (as it’s not the path of attraction in the first place).A man is never worthy on the sexual level to a popular woman’s social status, It is on a womans social status**.

Both are irrelevant to sexual chemistry yet it’s the incessant focus on ‘personality’ and fault that leaves men thinking their sex life is based on their ego.

Typical mindset: “It’s me it’s my personality, my ego is responsible for succeeding with women, sex and attraction. try try again if it doesn’t work. If women reject me it’s my fault.
I have to convey my personality and be interesting or intriguing. I have to know the right things to say to captivate women fast. Inner game is everything. There is only inner and outer game If women reject me, I must suck If I don’t succeed with women, there’s something wrong with me so I have to fix my thoughts and beliefs (personally) to be confident”.

** Direct, indirect & NLP based seduction base themselves on a woman social status, to say on her social character and not her natural character. Natural grounding assists you to be come aligned, (& polarised) to what that natural character of a woman is, it is natural and there in all women, society and our up bringing can effect & influence the way we think but it cannot change our nature. There is no “egoic” or ego involved with natural grounding. It´s not an inner game technique because a womans natural character is there whether you like it or not, it is not dealing with your “ego” as described above.


Direct & Indirect teach you to be fearful of women “approach anxiety” by just using that term it is just attracting more of the same. Similar thoughts create similar actions thus similar results. Just mentioning or thinking about your approach anxiety (or inner game (lack of)) just reinforces that belief giving more strength to it, thus focusing on inner game (the need for better) creates a need for it.

True rock solid inner game is self acceptance, accepting who you are as a person, including all your faults and being comfortable in your own skin.

Ever noticed that the happier you are the less you need? Go for happy.


Neither (Direct, indirect or NLP)  teach you anything more than just to fear woman,(is nt that the reason for A.A in the first place?)  to just keep on approaching, & keep on working on your inner game (fix my problems, it´s me that’s at fault, self “ego”). When you know what a womans natural character is you have nothing to fear and just approach any ways.

Method based seduction really just teach you that it is the method that is getting you the girl and not you. In reality YOU are good enough to get any girl.
Method based seduction be it Direct,Indirect Mystery method or sex code are good because they assist you in getting one of the 3 key elements that are important to success – Experience with women. Natural grounding assists in getting intune to and understanding what the natural sexuality & character of women is.


Uff!!! The Greeks were correct Aphrodite is amongst us!


Watch that video…come on be honest.. would you fear approaching her or a woman like that? guess what, that is the natural character in all women.

There is nothing to fear with the natural character of women.
Indirect / sex code / mystery Method just teaches you to be fearful of women that they are “so high above you” is nt that why you have to..maximise your value? (because she has more value than you) or neg her (lower her value) why would you do that other than because she is above you. Its just communicating with her Social character with your social character in short social game.Direct is not so different.

Natural game is simply communicating with a womans natural character with your natural character. Taking away social or society created values & or belief systems. It really is that simple. The best & possibly quickest way to natural game is to make the shortest & most difficult journey; to move from your head to your heart – dont think about the seduction, feel it.
The easiest way to natural game is to first discover what the natural character of women is and get into (a polar) relationship with that. This is where Natural grounding come in to effect. It is beyond my scope to write yet another post on natural grounding.
An example of polar relationship between masculine & feminine energies.


Once you are grounded in the natural energies and femininity of women, remember the natural character is there biologically in all women, you will be ready to communicate with a the womans natural character, stripping away all her ego centric “egoic” “inner game”  – the aloofness of “I´m above it all” bitchiness of cold hearted prima dona “you will be lucky to be with me” just because she is beautiful. All women know that this is not her natural sexuality.
This if you have not guessed by now is her social character. This is where Indirect / Sex code, NLP & Direct method place their communication, with her social character either lowering her aloofness or breaking her frame (negging / Indirect ,Frame breaking NLP) maximizing your own value (in relation to hers) (Indirect/Sex code). Follow that up by trying to win the power battle by getting her to qualify herself to him (Indirect / NLP / Sex code) or straight up telling her she is beautiful (direct). Note that in the aforementioned techniques the seducer is still communicating with a womans falsely created social character & value (she is so high above me because she is so beautiful…come on guys!!!!). It can end with a troubled relationship especially if she is the one that wears the pants in the relationship.
In the end the player just ends up trying to prove his social value to women. (Not his natural value or character)
Social character & social value (male or female) are not based on solid foundations or natural laws. Think about it, they are not created by nature but by society. Perhaps this is why in the west we currently have a growing problem in the relationships between men & women, broken relationship, increasing divorce rate, seduction community….
Im not critising Social game be it Direct, Indirect / Sex code or NLP as it works & has its obvious success but in the end it is still just hit & miss success which is why you see many PUA / AVENS opening 20 sets easily in just one night and becoming stressed when they have an apparent lack of success,  A numbers game. They are dependent upon results.
Natural game is to just open up a woman energy and communicate with her natural character. Instead of focusing on some pre-prepared opener or “opening set” to coin a phrase just focus on talking to the girl & getting her to open up her energies to you. Be in harmony and synergy with her at all times. This involves moving away from and removing the egoic self from the equation that the seduction community teaches you, regardless of method.
Seduction is about the woman and to paraphrase Rion Williams “Seduction is bringing out the natural character in women”.
So focus on the woman, get into harmony with he energies

To paraphrase one of the best naturals that I have the pleasure of knowing (Simon AKA Don)“I am successful with girls because I know how they think”
Listen to the words in this song.

Just ‘chill out’ and really be yourself when you´re with girls without letting their drama and their beauty get in your way, they will respect you, be relaxed around you as well and be charmed by your ‘charisma’ and sexual gravity. There are too many expectations with the traditional ‘dating’ frame of ‘courting’ or ‘wooing her’ and it’s not what she’s looking for anyways. Once you are comfortable and not nervous around her and this includes not grinning and smiling as much as you used to, or hanging on her every word, she will be a lot more comfortable to you & around you, will let her defenses down and start to open up because she feels she can trust you. Above all you will not be thinking of what to do or say next or thinking of pre-prepared routines or “contra-cortes” things will just flow naturally.
This is part of being a ‘natural’. You will find that if you can be a real natural with women, they will know how to instinctively respond to your unadulterated, uncompromised natural behavior. And when framed correctly, can easily lead to a physical relationship that is mutually beneficial for the both of you. And it will be one that she will not resent because it ‘just happened’. kept you have to get rid of the idea of trying to be really aggressive and ‘getting some’, and really just lay back and chill out and be natural when relating to women.
When you are not concerned about her beauty and none of that drama is allowed in to your paradigm of reality, she will often change your attitude in order to match up with yours and she will pace your lead.
Of course she brings additional issues to the table if you are going to have a real relationship with her, but for the short-term free and fun experience, it can be very satisfactory for the both of you because there are not many high expectations or demands on either part. This is pure and natural interdependence in a win-win situation between the both of you.
You can let her know that you will not accept her drama or tolerate it, or her bitchiness or whatever behavior you don´t like and she can take it or leave it; and when you know that you can drop her at any moment, she will be aware that you are a man who is serious and she will want to be around you because you are a man who finally stands up and sticks to his guns, a man of his word. Women really respect this and are not attracted to the ‘mummy boys’ though they will easily ‘chat’ with them. A mummy’s boy is not going to be her passionate ‘lover’.
It  doesn’t even matter what you say because you’re not trying to impress her or win her approval, so you can just have a natural good time with her by just being 100% yourself.  There is so much more to sexual attraction that is unspoken (non verbal) and that she is more perceptive of. Yes it is very easy for a man to get turned on, like a light switch. Or as a woman is more like a volume control. This is why you have to be a natural and not overwhelm her in the first place.

In fact you will experience the most success when you really do not care what the outcome is, because then if she is lucky enough she will be able to experience a natural process of attraction that fulfills her biological and sexual desires.
This is the real modern mating dance and ritual. It is ultimately very natural and this is the part which connects universally within her that she cannot explain or put into words. You can give her this powerful and natural experience that is very emotional and liberating for her.
To have this natural attraction and accelerated relationship with her, you cannot play by the normal rules of what society calls the game or dating. You must align yourself closer to our biological realities where the man has the power in the relationship and a woman will follow your lead.
It is the unspoken pure power of you being able to be a man in your reality who naturally knows how to build sexual attraction and tension in a woman, which all men have whether they are aware of it or not, that will lead to many great adventures and unforgettable memories in your life.
Also, make sure that you are the first one to end things such as communication opportunities, this keeps the power in your favor as well.
That is the natural experience.
Most of our women can’t help Being bitchy or aloof it is because men give in to their demands, society has placed so much pressure on them to be ‘beautiful’ and maintain the standard (and compete with one another) that a whole invisible shroud has been made that is covering the underlying biological reality of the mating process.

The best thing is just to change your entire state of mind of where you’re coming from. You really have to see the underlying paradigm and essentially ‘deny’ her (d)illusional front or ‘forced reality’ or ‘shroud’ when it comes to the mating game.
Because she still is a woman, and remember that the paradox & irony is; she is wondering where the real men are. When you are playing natural game you are aware through knowledge and continuing experience that the sexual attraction and communication process is basically the same with all of the women you encounter.
They get turned on in similar ways, and actually you can get them to a point where they literally become paralysed and say ‘take me now’. Actually happens often with me even with the “prima dona” high social value girls simply because I am happy to let them play their social game while I just communicate with her natural (biological) character.
Your knowledge of everything that is going on here and knowing they all women have these biological sensibilities and desires will allow you to full fill their desires when you can systematically lead them (as a natural man) through the process.
She may think it is coincidence, but it didn’t matter because you are being natural and you are a man. You can sweep her off of her feet and give her what she biologically and sexually desires. And you can do this over and over again.If you ever forget, just remember to go back to nature; where you have the birthright and so does she to know how to naturally go through the mating process.



December 25, 2010 - Posted by | Introduction to the Game


  1. While I was reading this post I had a lot of “yes, that’s so true!” moments. This post resumes what many man out there are looking for and still don’t know.

    Comment by Adrian | December 25, 2010

  2. Hi Donatello,

    Cheers, I enjoyed your article, can see the value in being a natural person.

    I think we are people.

    We eat, poop, breathe, we all want to be happy & loved & avoid suffering.

    I don’t know about the “game” or “dating” for me, everybody is a person, human, like me. The rest is details. I am interested in details, I love to hear people’s stories and lives & whatever the details, the person’s value remains the same. The way I treat the person remains the same. The way I feel in comparison to the person, equal, remains the same. My wish for their well-being remains the same.

    I am 22 years old, I live in Sydney, I’m about 5’8” long legs, blondey, slim hour glass figure, tanned skin, Swedish background. I work in marketing for a conference company, earn $75k a year. I dress smart/casual. I wear make-up. I blow dry my hair. Other people have recently described my appearance with the words “hot, sexy, gorgeous, beautiful”.

    I don’t feel pressure from society, I take care of myself because I want to, I enjoy it, I enjoy myself, I enjoy my job, I enjoy beauty of any kind & I can find beauty in everything. I broke a mirror recently and used the broken pieces in a sort of artistic design on a wooden wardrobe in my room. I think no matter how broken the pieces or people they are no less beautiful & no less valuable.


    “Also, make sure that you are the first one to end things such as communication opportunities, this keeps the power in your favor as well.”

    I don’t understand what “power” you are referring to in this sentence.

    All the best,


    Comment by Louisa | January 11, 2011

  3. Thanks for your kind words Louisa. By power, read taking control, be the leader, stack the odds in your favor.

    Comment by Donatello | January 11, 2011

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