The Player As An Island

The Player As An Island

The Player is a man who is comfortable in any given social situation; he can relate to just about anyone in a cordial and confident manner and everyone appreciates his charm and charisma. However, many misinterpret this ability; they believe it corresponds to a pressing and continuous need to be the center of attention. And while an effective ladies’ man must never take himself out of the limelight for too long — lest he lose his razor-sharp edge and his visibility — he does keep pieces of himself behind closed doors. He remains mysterious in a number of ways; he keeps a certain distance so intimacy and commitment are never implied. It is possible to remain social and active in every important scene scattered throughout the city, while still being reserved and independent. The Player as an island is a concept that involves selection, not removal; it allows one to be cautious in all the right situations while still offering his services to the vast majority of lovely targets.

The Player separates work and pleasure

One of the most dangerous things any Player can do is to let his social and personal life have an impact on his professional life. Occasionally, this seems almost unavoidable, but there should always be a distinct difference between the nighttime pickup artist and the daytime professional who adheres to every rule of civility and dignity. Ideally, those you work with will never even know about your exploits; bragging about them in the workplace is both classless and counterproductive. Furthermore, introducing women into this world is typically a bad idea, as it automatically leads to feelings of commitment

(it’s only a step below meeting family and friends). The Player will always be a gentleman, regardless of the time of day, but this skill is tweaked for each very different situation.

The Player keeps certain information confidential

We went over this in regards to online social services like facebook

one should always keep vital pieces of personal information to oneself, especially when you’re playing the field. For instance, if you have both a cell phone and a home phone, only give out your cell number (make it Rule No. 1). And while she’ll certainly be aware of your job, she shouldn’t be privy to your schedule; i.e., she shouldn’t know exactly what time you get home so she can be waiting at the door with a “stay-in dinner” invitation. There’s a difference between making yourself available and allowing women to track your movements like GPS satellites. Besides, this contributes to the requisite distance between you two; start getting really personal and you’re only a few tweaks away from full-on intimacy.

The Player can operate on his own

The lesser skilled guys are often forced to frequent clubs and bars simply because they need the assistance. They may not wish to admit it, but having the advantage of wingmen makes everything infinitely easier — especially where breaking up sets of females are concerned — and if you leave these men to their own devices, they often fall directly on their faces. However, many don’t realize that women are often wary of groups of men and are sometimes more likely to respond to the guy who’s clearly there by himself. A group may take the pressure off you but that pressure isn’t removed; it’s merely transferred to the girl. By heading in alone, you allow the women to keep their advantage of numbers and at the same time, a Player is fully capable of appealing to one or many by conducting himself beautifully without additional aid. Just bear in mind that playing the field alone is a strength move that only the initiated should attempt.

The Player doesn’t let a woman change him

One of the most common complaints issued by a woman is that a man “led her on,” i.e., she thought he wanted commitment when he really didn’t, and she blames him for not making it clear. The Player will never let this miscommunication occur because by remaining a self-sufficient, independent guy throughout any casual dating period the girl quickly picks up on that singular note of bachelorhood. The Player isn’t always available, nor is he building or altering his schedule around his new sex interest. His goals will remain the same, his day-to-day life will remain mostly the same, and while he will spend the desired amount of quality time with the girl in question, he can never be categorized as “whipped.” Those men failed to be islands; married or not

they let the most personal pieces of themselves and their lives get away.

be her island getaway

The Player as an island is an idea that often gets lost in the shuffle when up-and-coming ladies men spend all their energy attempting to satisfy their every aching desire. At some point, though, one must realize that a Player’s world isn’t consumed by his love of the fairer sex; it’s merely enhanced by the ladies. And that enhancement must be cultivated — believe it or not, there is such a thing as oversaturation..