Compliments Women Can’t Resist

The compliment: On the surface, it’s a straightforward expression, one clearly designed for the express purpose of making someone smile and feel better about themselves, but beneath the surface lies a ceaselessly chaotic obstacle course. It’s loaded with assumptions, misinterpretations, suspicion, and even duplicity. So suddenly, the seemingly simple process of paying a compliment becomes far more complicated. Many men believe a compliment sounds perfect in their minds, but are often surprised when things “inexplicably” turn south. Well, I’m here to explain the apparently inexplicable, and why you have to be extra careful when choosing your words and delivery. Mess it up and you could be sitting alone at the club, staring at an empty mug and wondering what went wrong… So here are several compliments women can’t resist.

“I could talk to you all night long.”

As you will find with many of the compliments listed here, we’re focusing on the values of a woman — what the female deems important and flattering. Any man who has ever had even the slightest contact with the fairer sex knows that women place a high value on communication. Hence, after talking to her for a while, you need to drop the compliment that not only flatters but also excites. These are the types of compliments women can’t resist. Say it with a distinct tone of pleased surprise: “Wow, I could talk to you all night long!” Obviously, this only works if the two of you have already established a well-paced, comfortable discussion, but it’s perfect if this situation presents itself. During such a great conversation, you will be expected to provide a compliment, and there’s nothing better than this solid standby.

“I like the way your mind works.”

Many women have come to expect the “Hey, you’re really smart!” comment, and these tips here are created to set you apart. Therefore, you need to take the next step that not only proves you listen, but that you’re also impressed with her mind in general. Now, despite what you may think, this compliment is not conditional; it’s not reliant on her actual intelligence. Such a comment as this can follow any remark of hers that represents a slight twist on the current subject or simply casts the subject in a new light. Something small, like an ironic observation constructed to make you smile or laugh, and you’re primed and ready to deliver the appropriate comment. She likely won’t even expect it as she wasn’t trying to impress you, and the key to any woman’s heart is an unexpected gift.

“You look fantastic.”

Most men who don’t fit the “metrosexual” label get up, locate whatever is clean and put it on. On the flip side, most women spend plenty of time selecting each piece of an outfit, which is highly dependent on multiple factors. Therefore, rather than trying the tired “That’s a beautiful dress,” you can tweak it for the sake of freshness by generalizing and summing up the entire ensemble: “You look fantastic.” Make sure you comment on the fact that her earrings are a good selection and match her top, or perhaps you can notice that her shoes are the “perfect choice.” These are compliments women can’t resist because most females put a tremendous amount of emphasis on their ability to pick out fantastic outfits. It’s not so much about how they look, it’s about her skill in bringing out her most attractive features.

“You’re definitely the hottest of your group.”

Although women tend to travel in groups at nightclubs and bars for general moral support and protection, don’t think for one solitary second that they’re not silently competing against one another. Perhaps they’re not literally clawing each other’s eyes out over one particular guy, but when you go out of your way to place her above her peers, she’ll lap it up like a starving kitten at a saucer of fresh milk. Many men don’t realize that women compare themselves to their friends far more often than guys do, which means such a compliment elevates the girl’s self-esteem. It’s not so much about her own vision of herself; it’s in how she appears to others, and when a man says “You’re definitely the hottest of your group,” she suddenly feels as if she has the physical edge. She won’t be overlooked when the night is over. She’ll be the one beating the guys off with a stick.

words can speak louder… sometimes

Compliments are a necessity when it comes to flirting, but much like any other Player discipline, moderation and timing dictate success ratios. Women expect the compliments to come, but they’re wary of guys who try too hard or assume too much, which means you have to be a strategist and a tactician. Observe, understand what the females will respond to and you can have a repertoire loaded with compliments women can’t resist.

The Player As An Island

The Player As An Island

The Player is a man who is comfortable in any given social situation; he can relate to just about anyone in a cordial and confident manner and everyone appreciates his charm and charisma. However, many misinterpret this ability; they believe it corresponds to a pressing and continuous need to be the center of attention. And while an effective ladies’ man must never take himself out of the limelight for too long — lest he lose his razor-sharp edge and his visibility — he does keep pieces of himself behind closed doors. He remains mysterious in a number of ways; he keeps a certain distance so intimacy and commitment are never implied. It is possible to remain social and active in every important scene scattered throughout the city, while still being reserved and independent. The Player as an island is a concept that involves selection, not removal; it allows one to be cautious in all the right situations while still offering his services to the vast majority of lovely targets.

The Player separates work and pleasure

One of the most dangerous things any Player can do is to let his social and personal life have an impact on his professional life. Occasionally, this seems almost unavoidable, but there should always be a distinct difference between the nighttime pickup artist and the daytime professional who adheres to every rule of civility and dignity. Ideally, those you work with will never even know about your exploits; bragging about them in the workplace is both classless and counterproductive. Furthermore, introducing women into this world is typically a bad idea, as it automatically leads to feelings of commitment

(it’s only a step below meeting family and friends). The Player will always be a gentleman, regardless of the time of day, but this skill is tweaked for each very different situation.

The Player keeps certain information confidential

We went over this in regards to online social services like facebook

one should always keep vital pieces of personal information to oneself, especially when you’re playing the field. For instance, if you have both a cell phone and a home phone, only give out your cell number (make it Rule No. 1). And while she’ll certainly be aware of your job, she shouldn’t be privy to your schedule; i.e., she shouldn’t know exactly what time you get home so she can be waiting at the door with a “stay-in dinner” invitation. There’s a difference between making yourself available and allowing women to track your movements like GPS satellites. Besides, this contributes to the requisite distance between you two; start getting really personal and you’re only a few tweaks away from full-on intimacy.

The Player can operate on his own

The lesser skilled guys are often forced to frequent clubs and bars simply because they need the assistance. They may not wish to admit it, but having the advantage of wingmen makes everything infinitely easier — especially where breaking up sets of females are concerned — and if you leave these men to their own devices, they often fall directly on their faces. However, many don’t realize that women are often wary of groups of men and are sometimes more likely to respond to the guy who’s clearly there by himself. A group may take the pressure off you but that pressure isn’t removed; it’s merely transferred to the girl. By heading in alone, you allow the women to keep their advantage of numbers and at the same time, a Player is fully capable of appealing to one or many by conducting himself beautifully without additional aid. Just bear in mind that playing the field alone is a strength move that only the initiated should attempt.

The Player doesn’t let a woman change him

One of the most common complaints issued by a woman is that a man “led her on,” i.e., she thought he wanted commitment when he really didn’t, and she blames him for not making it clear. The Player will never let this miscommunication occur because by remaining a self-sufficient, independent guy throughout any casual dating period the girl quickly picks up on that singular note of bachelorhood. The Player isn’t always available, nor is he building or altering his schedule around his new sex interest. His goals will remain the same, his day-to-day life will remain mostly the same, and while he will spend the desired amount of quality time with the girl in question, he can never be categorized as “whipped.” Those men failed to be islands; married or not

they let the most personal pieces of themselves and their lives get away.

be her island getaway

The Player as an island is an idea that often gets lost in the shuffle when up-and-coming ladies men spend all their energy attempting to satisfy their every aching desire. At some point, though, one must realize that a Player’s world isn’t consumed by his love of the fairer sex; it’s merely enhanced by the ladies. And that enhancement must be cultivated — believe it or not, there is such a thing as oversaturation..

The Player on Player etiquette

Learn some basics in Player etiquette

Gentlemen, this isn’t a normal day. Usually I have many ideas brewing over the course of my days before my next article that give me a few options to write about. However, I feel

it is time I addressed one of the most pressing topics that dogs guys everywhere — Player etiquette. It’s a dying maxim to live by, overlooked by today’s complacent on-the-go society where manners take a backseat to instant pleasures and self indulgence. And yet, I was inspired to write on etiquette when I recently saw some poor schlub at a party demonstrating how not to impress women with bad manners and inappropriate behavior. The sad thing is that he didn’t even know he was doing it, which made his game that much more embarrassing to watch. Good conduct, it seems, might still have some relevance; this guy could have saved his game with the proper Player etiquette every man should know.

There are some lessons men can learn that will instantly improve their chances; here are a few techniques on Player etiquette that will show her you’re a class act.

Bad habits

Chewing your nails, picking your teeth, picking your nose, smoking — it happens all the time, and I’ve seen more guys do it involuntarily than a Player should. Displaying your bad habits when you’re picking up a woman is going to instantly kill your game; your little nuances are as glaring as the skin flakes on your shirt. Really, is that appropriate? I think not.

A Player has to be prudent about the little things he does. While on the surface it may seem harmless and subtle, to her it’s an obtrusive turnoff that’s going to net you a handshake good-bye rather than the desired fervent lip-lock. Be mindful of what your intuition wants you to do, and think about the consequences if you fall back into your bad habits. Then, think about what kind of benefits

you’ll get (from her) if you suppress your otherwise instinctive (but nasty) urges. Chances are your game will move a lot smoother without the social awkwardness rather than with, so just avoid the bad habits at all costs. It’s hard to practice this form of Player etiquette, but it’s definitely worth it.

Watch your mouth

Nothing spells “dating disaster” like carpet-bombing her with the F-word and other soap-to-mouth worthy expressions. Like the bad habits previously mentioned, this common mistake may slip under the tongue without you being aware of it, but it can be as loud as a banshee to her ears. Woman like civilized guys, and since communication is key to a good relationship, you’re not doing yourself any favors spouting an arsenal of crude vulgarities.

Practice watching your mouth. After a while, you won’t even attempt to use the word anymore (you’ll find you just stop using it), making you a gentleman

with better Player etiquette (and a proper vocabulary). Perseverance is paramount to success here, so keep at it and it will come.

Be a gentleman

Good player

etiquette involves doing the little things that show your honor and respect for your female counterpart. Chivalry isn’t dead, although some of the conventional gentlemanly tools are just not as prominent today as they once were (some may see unnecessary male subordination to female desires, while others may see a lack of feminist equality). In either case, proper Player etiquette demands gentlemanly behavior, so find a good balance.

There are many ways a guy can show he’s of good quality. Namely, you are the guiding hand for her to not to worry about life’s little foibles. For example, if you’re driving, open the door for her when she’s getting in or out of the vehicle, let her enter the restaurant first, make sure she gets the better seat at the table, and always take care of the bill at least the first time out. See the pattern? Little displays of respect will prove your good-natured self. Show her that chivalry is alive and well, and proper Player etiquette will follow suit.

Be prompt and reliable

Endemic to your success as a Player is your ability to show up on time. Whether that is by plane, train, automobile, cell phone, text message, pager, or telegraph signal, you can do no better than being a reliable guy that always fulfills on his promise to deliver the goods, which in turn makes for some damn good Player etiquette.

“I’ll call you tomorrow” or “I’ll meet you at the party at eight o’clock” are two promises you’ve just made to a woman that now demand your time and effort. Seems easy to do, right? It should be, but I see far too many guys who make idle promises like these and fail to deliver, leaving nothing but an awkward mess of explanations and excuses that would make a politician proud. Needless to say, walk the walk. If you say you’re going to do it, show some respect and do it without the excuses. Not interested in her? Then do not, under any circumstances, make false promises that leaves the door open. You’re just setting yourself up for disaster. Be prompt and reliable, and you’ll be exhibiting the good Player etiquette that we should all have.

Don’t flash your bling

There is a stark difference between a wealthy man and a self-indulgent one; one spends within reason and the other unreasonably spends. Furthermore, showcasing your goods like being on a Milan catwalk is self-indulgent tripe that only fools can be fooled by, and women are intelligent creatures.

Good etiquette requires a sense of what is reasonable and what is over-the-top, and the latter can turn women off like the flick of a switch. Flagrant displays of wealth can be insulting for her and look cheap on your part. Don’t go all-out and buy everything in the store or restaurant; she’ll see that you’re just trying to buy her affection and won’t fall for it and, if she does, she’s probably warmer to your wallet than she is to you. Keep your spending in check; an effective Player is one who can entertain his date

with a classy night out, but also show humility through restraint. Rollback the bling and everybody wins.

Proper hygeine

Player etiquette isn’t just a psychological game, there’s a physical element to it as well. I know I have waxed poetic about good hygiene in my previous writings, but I can’t stress this oh-so-important factor enough. Your physical presence is the first thing a woman looks at when you approach her, and your personality is a follow-up. Since first impressions are crucial to a players success, maximize your good looks — dress with a sense of class, maintain a good haircut, trim your facial hair, brush those teeth, etc. (these things should go without saying).

Things getting a little passionate? Before you turn on your primal instincts, make sure you’re fully showered and cleaned, trimmed in the right places and ready to have your skin pressed up against hers (women

pay eagle-like attention to a man’s bedroom hygiene). Whatever you do, place a premium on your physical presence; you’ll see that good Player etiquette and a well-kempt man are part and parcel.

Don’t be shocking in bed

So, now you’ve made it all the way to her bedroom, you’re gussied up and the hormones are pulsating at the thought of getting lucky. She’s just as equally aroused as you are, and she’s hoping for a sensual full-body experience. That said, Player etiquette must not be thrown to the wayside the minute the lights dim. A good Player knows the golden rule when scoring: You can’t surprise her with something she doesn’t want to do. There’s nothing that’s more of a buzz kill than trying to do a deed that she’s obviously going to be uncomfortable with; you’ll kill the mood (not to mention the momentum), leaving you wanting and her disgusted. Most women like to be pleasured within their range of comfort, not yours (that means no back door surprises, gentlemen, and other such unwanted, train-wrecking bedroom hijinks).
On a similar note, don’t just be an idle sack of potatoes. Try out some new positions, push the limits a little and communicate to find a good balance. Good Player etiquette gets good Players laid.

Make her orgasm

Let’s be brutally honest here — Players are expected to perform. You aren’t called a Player because you can play board games with her all night; you’ve got to show her you know your way around the bed and can please her with an exhilarating, mind-blowing experience only with your magic touch. Remember, you’re not there to get your jollies alone; she’s expecting the same thing. Proper etiquette dictates it. Easier said than done, but women lament guys who can’t follow through on their promises, sexually or otherwise. If you just roll over and go to sleep when you’re satisfied, you deserve a swift kick in the nuts — it’s not very Player-like behavior.
So how do you do it? You’ll have to find a potent mix of chemistry, foreplay and sexual know-how to satisfy her sexually and make her orgasm (and hopefully more than once). Remember when I said you had to be reliable? Well here’s a perfect example: Deliver the goods. Perform. Find her G-spot. There is no half-assing it; your primary focus is to please her and, if done correctly, it will have her swooning for more. I don’t care how difficult this may be — sexual gratification is proper sex etiquette. Fulfill her bedroom desires and you’ll be a hero in her books.

something to follow-up with

There are just a few of the things a guy can do to better himself, and proper etiquette is not something that is granted overnight; it takes some time and practice to make those practical changes. However, the perpetual mistakes that guys often make can be easily corrected with a few considerations, and once you get them, they’ll stick on you like glue. Routinely address your approach with women and make sure that the little things, such as bad habits, language, conversation

topics, and physical presence (and performance) are well taken care off. Pay attention to detail and you’ll find that Player etiquette is alive and well.